Is it a gift, or a non-verbal contract with strings attached? I try to be ever conscious of my behaviors, for example, I stay in therapy, I continue reading books that promote emotional well-being (typically C.G. Jung, Robert Johnson, James Hillman and even the “pop” psychology stuff), and yet I still get stuck in my own ego. Recently, I noticed my expectation around gift-giving. I purchased a birthday gift for a friend, and never heard anything back. I know the gift was recieved, and no extenuating circumstances were evident; by most standards, I am considered a generous gift giver. I got pissy.
Entries from February 2008 ↓
Gift giving and expectations
February 24th, 2008 — Behaviors, Family, Relationships
What drives your behaviors?
February 23rd, 2008 — Behaviors, Podcast
My unconscious impulse - which I could not resist, got me to buy a Army green Jeep Wrangler. What’s up with that? My ANIMUS is screaming to be heard! Yes, my inner masculine self has been duct-tapped for nearly a decade - but that tape has decayed and my animus is coming out. Swiss psychiatrist, C.G. Jung termed Animus as the masculine side of a woman’s unconscious mind, and the Anima as related to men’s inner female. Be careful, because the very part of our psyche that we ignore, is the part who will always show up un-invited and least expected. How do you allow expression of your inner opposite gender function?
What do your unconscious behaviors say?
February 23rd, 2008 — Behaviors
What do your behaviors say that you can’t quite articulate? I’ll speak for myself. I just bought a Jeep Wrangler - a combat green, mud-slinging, go anywhere military vehicle. What the heck is behind my behavior? In other words, what is my psyche constellating? What unconscious feelings are attempting to manifest through the physical representation of this Jeep? I conclude my Jeep represents the repressed animus (masculine side) in me - my inner masculine nature is begging for expression. My Jeep represents my own inner mud-slinging, military go-anywhere attitude which has been repressed for several years now. But, I’m ready to re-integrate that part of me again. What is your psyche constellating via your behaviors?
The Bachelor Premiere
February 19th, 2008 — TV, Relationships, Podcast
A voicemail from Courtney in LA gets the conversation cranked! Last night was the season premiere of The Bachelor TV show. Twenty-five women to one (OK, Brad is very hot) man. The women all know the score and all know before they don their designer dresses and high heels that ten of them will be sent home the next day. The ten who went home were clearly upset and crying. But why? How can they have any real attachment to a guy they just met? Well, sorry Hottie Brad, most of it is not about you - at least not yet. All of the women are buying into a romantic fantasy… and several other dynamics are at work too - including previous rejection and abandonment issues. Listen and share your own thoughts
