Entries Tagged 'Divorce' ↓
July 14th, 2008 — Self Care, Behaviors, Family, Divorce, Relationships, Podcast
Listener email:
Dear Zanny - I have listened since almost day one to the Divas and was so glad to hear you are doing this show… I value your advice!
My background is a Bachelor of Science in Family Relations and Child Development. I worked counseling parents of disabled or delayed children birth to three and coordinating special services for their children for almost 10 years. My ‘specialty’ was micro premature babies…
I have been with my husband since 10/2000 and we were married 5/02. He was a confirmed bachelor when we met – he is 10 years my senior (I am 33) and I had to threaten him I would break off our relationship if we did not get married – and he ‘caved in’ and we married the following May. I was hearing my ‘clock ticking’ since I wanted two children and I knew with his age he would want children sooner than later or we’d miss that window. I know now I should have left him and found another – but I did not. I was burned in my first marriage by a cheating man and divorced him prior to graduating college. I dated a high school sweetheart almost a year and he did pretty much the same thing. I found my husband through a dating service (this is before Match.com and such!) and liked him since he was OPPOSITE my other ‘men’ I had dated/married. He was a civil engineer, quiet, did not like to socialize. I know I did this out of fear of a cheating man. But I did it any way. Continue reading →
June 17th, 2008 — Friends, Behaviors, Family, Divorce, Relationships
EMAIL: Beth wrote:
I love your new podcast!! I heard about it from the Diva Cast and thought I would have a listen. Well today at work, I caught up on all your episodes (Dear Zanny). I can correlate some of your advice to other events in my life (the cat and mouse and projection of your own feelings of yourself onto other), so I thought I would e-mail with my current dilemma.I have a close friend of 20+ years (since grade school) who is going through a very nasty divorce and custody battle. She has lied about a lot of things (to avoid visitation, etc), done things that I don’t agree with her other children, had her boyfriend move in with us and more…We were roommates (her, me and a total of 7 kids, OY!) and we had a falling out about a bunch of stuff and decided to not extend our lease.
Well, when I moved out, someone told the custody evaluator that I moved because her boyfriend moved in (which she tells the courts he is not living there, and not her bf), and that I was frightened for my kids life…. Which is one of the major factors they are considering and now suggesting full custody go to the Dad. Continue reading →
March 16th, 2008 — Divorce, Relationships, Podcast
Pursuer-distancer relationship dynamics occur in all types of relationships - lovers, siblings, and friendships - but why? What does the pursuer need that the distancer senses and makes them RUN?! The pursuer (one who’s chasing) needs to take a deep breath and stop for a moment and ask themselves, “What is it I am asking the other do do for me that I cannot do for myself?” Each of us is responsible for our own emotional well-being. It’s a fairytale to think someone else can fulfill us all the time in every way. It is our responsibility to do our own inner work and become emotionally self-reliant.
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Zanny
Disclaimer: Dear Zanny is for entertainment purposes only. Any advice offered is never intented to substitute proffessional help.
September 4th, 2007 — Divorce, Relationships, Kids, Podcast
A listener is in a new marriage - a second one. Her new step daughter is difficult and sulky. This is a classic “pursuer-distancer” (or “cat and mouse game”) relationship dynamic. The one person pursues while the other RUNS! Guess who has the power? Answer: The one doing the running. Avoid this common dynamic by taking a firm-but-gentle stance. Listen how…
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Email me: Zanny@DearZanny.com. Do you need relationship advice? Call Zanny! Let’s talk!
Blessings to one and all.
love, Zanny
