Comments for DearZanny http://www.dearzanny.com The First Relationship Advice Podcast Fri, 12 Mar 2010 02:10:57 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.2.3 Comment on When I Hate My Hair - I Hate My Life! by zoey http://www.dearzanny.com/2008/10/17/when-i-hate-my-hair-i-hate-my-life/#comment-3132 zoey Sat, 13 Feb 2010 03:35:01 +0000 http://www.dearzanny.com/2008/10/17/when-i-hate-my-hair-i-hate-my-life/#comment-3132 LOL. I too suffer from this very same dilemma! Just this past summer I had a brief episode of depression and anxiety and in retrospect felt as though I needed a new hairdo. Well before my crisis struck I had actually been growing my hair out for the past 2 years and it was finally at a long, sexy length and of course as I was not in a clear state of mind.....I chopped it all off! When I looked in the mirror I was too depressed to even care that it happened to be a really ugly style on me. It was just a simple bob, but the bob do just totally does not mesh with my personal style so to speak....Well flash foward! It's now been about 9 months since the depression episode and my hair is in this awkward-growing-out-layered-always-in-a-pony-tail stage. And consequently (just like the rest of you) I am kinda bummed when I see my hair in the mirror...I'm pretty sure the reason we tend get so unhappy and or frustrated with ugly/short hair is because it takes so long to grow out! On average human hair grows about 6 inches a year....so if you just snipped your locks to chin status, you're probably looking at about 2 years before your hair reaches that NICE, lengthy length. So if EVER you have a life crisis or any major life change, DO NOT cut your hair (if you've never done so before) in an attempt to have a new fresh outlook... instead buy some new make-up or join a gym! Whatever you do, just make sure you keep all scissors away from those lush locks! Now I'm not saying short hair is a bad thing, but for the majority of women, longer is better. There are those few and far in between who can totally pull off short do's and still sizzle with sex appeal and usually those women have attitude and nice, square jaw lines. Now for the rest of us who have fallen into a short hair rut by accident, keep hope....for there is light at the end of the tunnel...the light may be 2 years away, but it's still there! In the mean time (if you haven't already) join a gym, or surf youtube for short hair styling ideas. As hair is growing out it can look really cute with subtle waves or even completely sleeked out with a straight iron...even subtle highlights could give you a needed boost! LOL. I too suffer from this very same dilemma! Just this past summer I had a brief episode of depression and anxiety and in retrospect felt as though I needed a new hairdo. Well before my crisis struck I had actually been growing my hair out for the past 2 years and it was finally at a long, sexy length and of course as I was not in a clear state of mind…..I chopped it all off! When I looked in the mirror I was too depressed to even care that it happened to be a really ugly style on me. It was just a simple bob, but the bob do just totally does not mesh with my personal style so to speak….Well flash foward! It’s now been about 9 months since the depression episode and my hair is in this awkward-growing-out-layered-always-in-a-pony-tail stage. And consequently (just like the rest of you) I am kinda bummed when I see my hair in the mirror…I’m pretty sure the reason we tend get so unhappy and or frustrated with ugly/short hair is because it takes so long to grow out! On average human hair grows about 6 inches a year….so if you just snipped your locks to chin status, you’re probably looking at about 2 years before your hair reaches that NICE, lengthy length. So if EVER you have a life crisis or any major life change, DO NOT cut your hair (if you’ve never done so before) in an attempt to have a new fresh outlook… instead buy some new make-up or join a gym! Whatever you do, just make sure you keep all scissors away from those lush locks! Now I’m not saying short hair is a bad thing, but for the majority of women, longer is better. There are those few and far in between who can totally pull off short do’s and still sizzle with sex appeal and usually those women have attitude and nice, square jaw lines. Now for the rest of us who have fallen into a short hair rut by accident, keep hope….for there is light at the end of the tunnel…the light may be 2 years away, but it’s still there! In the mean time (if you haven’t already) join a gym, or surf youtube for short hair styling ideas. As hair is growing out it can look really cute with subtle waves or even completely sleeked out with a straight iron…even subtle highlights could give you a needed boost!

]]> Comment on When I Hate My Hair - I Hate My Life! by amber (not real name) http://www.dearzanny.com/2008/10/17/when-i-hate-my-hair-i-hate-my-life/#comment-2819 amber (not real name) Sun, 27 Dec 2009 02:50:57 +0000 http://www.dearzanny.com/2008/10/17/when-i-hate-my-hair-i-hate-my-life/#comment-2819 Beth i would LOVE to have your hair type!!!! Beth i would LOVE to have your hair type!!!!

]]> Comment on When I Hate My Hair - I Hate My Life! by amber (not real name) http://www.dearzanny.com/2008/10/17/when-i-hate-my-hair-i-hate-my-life/#comment-2814 amber (not real name) Fri, 25 Dec 2009 21:59:50 +0000 http://www.dearzanny.com/2008/10/17/when-i-hate-my-hair-i-hate-my-life/#comment-2814 I have thickish wavy hair with wavy "bumps" ALL over and also i hate myself its depressing who ever has thin straight limp flat hair and wants this hair TAKE IT! :). we'll trade. The only thing i would never change about my hair is the color! I have thickish wavy hair with wavy “bumps” ALL over and also i hate myself its depressing who ever has thin straight limp flat hair and wants this hair TAKE IT! :). we’ll trade. The only thing i would never change about my hair is the color!

]]> Comment on Pursuer-Distancer Dynamic by Julie http://www.dearzanny.com/2008/03/16/pursuer-distancer-dynamic/#comment-2790 Julie Wed, 09 Dec 2009 13:05:52 +0000 http://www.dearzanny.com/2008/03/16/pursuer-distancer-dynamic/#comment-2790 I appreciate that no one can meet all your needs however, the way i see it the distancer in a relationship is not 'in the relationship' and therefore is not contributing to an actual relationship at all. The pursuer, on the other hand, whilst not faultless by any means, is aty least connecting, communicating and showing emotion on some level. What is suggested in all these articles that i seem to read is that the pursuer learns to live in a relationship that is not a relationship and to find a way to met their own needs. So exactly what is the point of remaining in a relationship with the distancer? What would be in that for me? I appreciate that no one can meet all your needs however, the way i see it the distancer in a relationship is not ‘in the relationship’ and therefore is not contributing to an actual relationship at all. The pursuer, on the other hand, whilst not faultless by any means, is aty least connecting, communicating and showing emotion on some level. What is suggested in all these articles that i seem to read is that the pursuer learns to live in a relationship that is not a relationship and to find a way to met their own needs. So exactly what is the point of remaining in a relationship with the distancer? What would be in that for me?

]]> Comment on 5 Keys to Finding a Good Therapist by Corey Quinn http://www.dearzanny.com/2008/12/28/5-keys-to-finding-a-good-therapist/#comment-2763 Corey Quinn Fri, 27 Nov 2009 12:31:35 +0000 http://www.dearzanny.com/2008/12/28/5-keys-to-finding-a-good-therapist/#comment-2763 Hi Suzanne, I like your list. However, sometimes using word of mouth can be difficult to find a good therapist that fits you. To address the 'fit' question (compatibility), you may want to try my website which helps match you with a compatible therapist: www.mytherapistmatch.com. Take a look and let me know what you think! Thanks, Corey Quinn Hi Suzanne,

I like your list. However, sometimes using word of mouth can be difficult to find a good therapist that fits you. To address the ‘fit’ question (compatibility), you may want to try my website which helps match you with a compatible therapist: www.mytherapistmatch.com.

Take a look and let me know what you think!

Thanks, Corey Quinn

]]> Comment on Eckhart Tolle & Christianity by Tim http://www.dearzanny.com/2008/04/14/eckhart-tolle-christianity/#comment-2633 Tim Thu, 22 Oct 2009 04:04:50 +0000 http://www.dearzanny.com/2008/04/14/eckhart-tolle-christianity/#comment-2633 This book is a trademark 'new age movement' belief it is both monistic and pantheistic. Im a christian, have been all my life, and am on staff at my local church. I think Tolle is great with his words and a good author. Yet the content is not at all Christian. He backs up his claims using verses that are completely taken out of context. I am all up for people searching for the truth and i think its great people are getting off their bums and trying to find the truth in this world, yet i think we should be careful at what books we label as Christian because this certainly isnt a Christian book. Nonetheless Im not judging anyone who likes it and any Christian that is judging and hurling abuse at people for reading this should remember that the central message of Christianity is Grace. This book is a trademark ‘new age movement’ belief it is both monistic and pantheistic. Im a christian, have been all my life, and am on staff at my local church. I think Tolle is great with his words and a good author. Yet the content is not at all Christian. He backs up his claims using verses that are completely taken out of context. I am all up for people searching for the truth and i think its great people are getting off their bums and trying to find the truth in this world, yet i think we should be careful at what books we label as Christian because this certainly isnt a Christian book. Nonetheless Im not judging anyone who likes it and any Christian that is judging and hurling abuse at people for reading this should remember that the central message of Christianity is Grace.

]]> Comment on When I Hate My Hair - I Hate My Life! by Zanny http://www.dearzanny.com/2008/10/17/when-i-hate-my-hair-i-hate-my-life/#comment-2624 Zanny Sat, 17 Oct 2009 21:18:48 +0000 http://www.dearzanny.com/2008/10/17/when-i-hate-my-hair-i-hate-my-life/#comment-2624 Hey Breann - what a real comment you posted. Why did you cut your hair off? It sounds like your confidence is really impacted... I'm wondering if the guys aren't hitting on you like before because of the nonverbal ques you may be putting out there, like lack of confidence? Just a thought. Did you notice your typo? You wrote "...when my hair grows back I look god [good] again..." You wrote god vs. good! What an interesting slip of the tongue. What part of you felt like a god or goddess with longer hair? Just something interesting to ponder. Thanks for sharing! Hey Breann - what a real comment you posted. Why did you cut your hair off? It sounds like your confidence is really impacted… I’m wondering if the guys aren’t hitting on you like before because of the nonverbal ques you may be putting out there, like lack of confidence? Just a thought. Did you notice your typo? You wrote “…when my hair grows back I look god [good] again…” You wrote god vs. good! What an interesting slip of the tongue. What part of you felt like a god or goddess with longer hair? Just something interesting to ponder. Thanks for sharing!

]]> Comment on Eckhart Tolle & Christianity by james http://www.dearzanny.com/2008/04/14/eckhart-tolle-christianity/#comment-2594 james Thu, 01 Oct 2009 18:00:17 +0000 http://www.dearzanny.com/2008/04/14/eckhart-tolle-christianity/#comment-2594 i think, the reason why which people find this book very repulsive is that they see it as a threat to their faith, to their comfort zone and that when that wall that surrounds that comfort zone has been destructed by the words of this book -which was never i think eckhart's reason for making it, the normality on which they live on a day to day basis would be interrupted. i love the book! i think, the reason why which people find this book very repulsive is that they see it as a threat to their faith, to their comfort zone and that when that wall that surrounds that comfort zone has been destructed by the words of this book -which was never i think eckhart’s reason for making it, the normality on which they live on a day to day basis would be interrupted. i love the book!

]]> Comment on When I Hate My Hair - I Hate My Life! by Breann http://www.dearzanny.com/2008/10/17/when-i-hate-my-hair-i-hate-my-life/#comment-2581 Breann Wed, 23 Sep 2009 04:21:19 +0000 http://www.dearzanny.com/2008/10/17/when-i-hate-my-hair-i-hate-my-life/#comment-2581 I have to agree. When I hate my hair I hate my life. Right now I am hating my life like you would not believe. I have ugliest short hair cut right now. I have lost my confidence. I tell my friends that ever since I lost my hair I lost my mojo. Guys don't even flirt with me anymore or even give me a second look. I don't get tips at work like I use too. i keep telling myself that when my hair grows back and I look god again I will start enjoying my life again. I have to agree. When I hate my hair I hate my life. Right now I am hating my life like you would not believe. I have ugliest short hair cut right now. I have lost my confidence. I tell my friends that ever since I lost my hair I lost my mojo. Guys don’t even flirt with me anymore or even give me a second look. I don’t get tips at work like I use too. i keep telling myself that when my hair grows back and I look god again I will start enjoying my life again.

]]> Comment on Emotional Prostitution by Dawn Estridge http://www.dearzanny.com/2008/09/18/emotional-prostitution/#comment-2575 Dawn Estridge Fri, 18 Sep 2009 17:58:07 +0000 http://www.dearzanny.com/2008/09/18/emotional-prostitution/#comment-2575 Excellent! This is just what I was looking for to explain the pressure in the workplace to push people into wanting our product. We are now being told how to act how to react etc. toward the end result of, as they put it, "being loved". The big name company is spending big $ to give the corporation a "makeover" in order to increase sales obviously. They haven't decided to increase pay of employees, yet they pushing for greater skills in kissing ass. I couldn't figure out why I felt crosswise about this program, now you clarified what I've been concluding. The company is encouraging us to be better whores! And as any pimp, there won't even be monetary gain for us hookers! Excellent! This is just what I was looking for to explain the pressure in the workplace to push people into wanting our product. We are now being told how to act how to react etc. toward the end result of, as they put it, “being loved”.
The big name company is spending big $ to give the corporation a “makeover” in order to increase sales obviously. They haven’t decided to increase pay of employees, yet they pushing for greater skills in kissing ass. I couldn’t figure out why I felt crosswise about this program, now you clarified what I’ve been concluding. The company is encouraging us to be better whores! And as any pimp, there won’t even be monetary gain for us hookers!

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